Why You Should Know Each Other’s Chipotle OrdersPosted on November 20, 2014
One evening my boyfriend came over, and stopped at Chipotle on his way to bring me some dinner. He texted me to see what I wanted. My brief responses of “chicken taco” and “you know what I want” apparently didn’t help him too much, because he didn’t get my order right. I wondered, “How could … Continue reading Why You Should Know Each Other’s Chipotle Orders
Stop Doing This After a DatePosted on October 29, 2014
Have you ever had – what you considered – a great date, and then you never heard from the guy again? Then you start thinking about everything that you said, how you “blew it,” what you did to scare him away and so on. You may even reach out to your friends, divulging every detail … Continue reading Stop Doing This After a Date
Communication Win-WinPosted on October 8, 2014
Featured in the Chicago edition of Attorney at Law Magazine: When I argue with my spouse, she complains I am treating her like a witness I am cross-examining. She gets defensive and the tension escalates. Nothing ever fully resolves and we both shut down. I feel like we now avoid arguments rather than solve them. … Continue reading Communication Win-Win
How to Fall Out of LovePosted on October 1, 2014
A common problem presented to me is, “Anita, I love my partner, but I’m just not in love with them anymore.” Usually my clients don’t realize that they were active participants in falling out of love by the choices they made over the course of their relationship. Frequent pitfalls they seem to experience include: … Continue reading How to Fall Out of Love
Sexless Affair or Just a Friendship?Posted on September 3, 2014
He’s someone I work with. I didn’t think much of him at first. We talked a little but mostly just went out for lunch with other coworkers. After awhile we broke off from the group and the two of us starting going out to lunch together. Then we started talking outside of work, mostly just … Continue reading Sexless Affair or Just a Friendship?
Don’t Make This Dating MistakePosted on August 19, 2014
You finally met someone. You’ve had several email and text exchanges, and maybe you’ve even talked on the phone or had a date or two. You think this person is great, and you wonder if he could be “The One”? The only problem is, you barely even know the guy. Have you ever built a … Continue reading Don’t Make This Dating Mistake
Why You Really May be Dismissing the Nice GuyPosted on July 22, 2014
Ok ladies, ‘fess up. Have you been on a great date with a nice guy but he just didn’t do anything for you emotionally? He called when he said he would, confirmed plans, was a gentleman…but nothing in the feelings department. Nada. Zero. Zilch. So you dump the nice guy and move on. You … Continue reading Why You Really May be Dismissing the Nice Guy
The Most Toxic Relationship BehaviorPosted on July 8, 2014
I can’t believe I’m married to such an idiot. You finished one thing on the list. Do you want an award for being ‘Partner of the Year’? You call that picking up after yourself? Can’t you do anything right? You always spend too much money. Why are you so irresponsible? Can you be any more … Continue reading The Most Toxic Relationship Behavior
Is Your Partner Cheating?Posted on April 29, 2014
In my last blog I wrote about common myths about cheating. Research indicates that infidelity is on the rise, with more relationships being affected by it. If good people are cheating, how can you tell if your partner (who I’m pretty sure you think is a good person) is cheating on you? It’s not easy … Continue reading Is Your Partner Cheating?
How to Pick a Good Couples TherapistPosted on April 24, 2014
Are you not seeing eye-to-eye with your partner? Is there hot conflict or icy distance? Do you want your partner to change, but he or she wants you to change? You may have tried to make your relationship better – and sometimes it works, but then you both revert back to your old ways. You … Continue reading How to Pick a Good Couples Therapist
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