How to Fall Out of Love

A common problem presented to me is, “Anita, I love my partner, but I’m just not in love with them anymore.” Usually my clients don’t realize that they were active participants in falling out of love by the choices they made over the course of their relationship....

Why You Really May be Dismissing the Nice Guy

Ok ladies, ‘fess up. Have you been on a great date with a nice guy but he just didn’t do anything for you emotionally? He called when he said he would, confirmed plans, was a gentleman…but nothing in the feelings department. Nada. Zero. Zilch. So you dump the nice guy...

The Most Toxic Relationship Behavior

I can’t believe I’m married to such an idiot. You finished one thing on the list. Do you want an award for being ‘Partner of the Year’? You call that picking up after yourself? Can’t you do anything right? You always spend too much money. Why are you so irresponsible?...

How to Pick a Good Couples Therapist

Are you not seeing eye-to-eye with your partner? Is there hot conflict or icy distance? Do you want your partner to change, but he or she wants you to change? You may have tried to make your relationship better – and sometimes it works, but then you both revert back...

Get Out of Your Relationship Rut

You meet someone new. You think about them all the time and can’t wait until the moment when you see them next. You can’t eat, sleep or concentrate. You check your phone a hundred times a day to see if you missed their call or text. You feel energized like never...