Break Up Tips – I Got Dumped. Now What?

Dear Anita, I was dating this guy for almost a year and he just dumped me. It took me by surprise and now I’m struggling. I think my friends are tired of hearing about him. It’s been three months since the breakup but I can’t get over it. Can you give me some tips to...

Four Love Lessons From The Bachelor

I know, I know…some of you are rolling your eyes at the title of my blog. Seriously, what can The Bachelor teach us about love? When the first season aired in 2002, I too thought, What are these women thinking? Where’s their self-respect? But when I watched this...

Why You Should Know Each Other’s Chipotle Orders

One evening my boyfriend came over, and stopped at Chipotle on his way to bring me some dinner. He texted me to see what I wanted. My brief responses of “chicken taco” and “you know what I want” apparently didn’t help him too much, because he didn’t get my order...

How to Fall Out of Love

A common problem presented to me is, “Anita, I love my partner, but I’m just not in love with them anymore.” Usually my clients don’t realize that they were active participants in falling out of love by the choices they made over the course of their relationship....

The Most Toxic Relationship Behavior

I can’t believe I’m married to such an idiot. You finished one thing on the list. Do you want an award for being ‘Partner of the Year’? You call that picking up after yourself? Can’t you do anything right? You always spend too much money. Why are you so irresponsible?...