Stop Doing This After a Date

Have you ever had – what you considered – a great date, and then you never heard from the guy again? Then you start thinking about everything that you said, how you “blew it,” what you did to scare him away and so on. You may even reach out to your friends, divulging...

Communication Win-Win

Featured in the Chicago edition of Attorney at Law Magazine: When I argue with my spouse, she complains I am treating her like a witness I am cross-examining. She gets defensive and the tension escalates. Nothing ever fully resolves and we both shut down. I feel like...

How to Fall Out of Love

A common problem presented to me is, “Anita, I love my partner, but I’m just not in love with them anymore.” Usually my clients don’t realize that they were active participants in falling out of love by the choices they made over the course of their relationship....

Don’t Make This Dating Mistake

You finally met someone. You’ve had several email and text exchanges, and maybe you’ve even talked on the phone or had a date or two. You think this person is great, and you wonder if he could be “The One”? The only problem is, you barely even know the guy. Have you...

The Most Toxic Relationship Behavior

I can’t believe I’m married to such an idiot. You finished one thing on the list. Do you want an award for being ‘Partner of the Year’? You call that picking up after yourself? Can’t you do anything right? You always spend too much money. Why are you so irresponsible?...