Dating & Relationship

Disillusioned with your love life? Tired of being single? Is your relationship not the way you thought it would be? Take control of your love life. A happy and loving relationship is possible. Let me prove it!


Happy Relationships
Therapy & Coaching

Get the skills and information you need to achieve a successful and happy relationship.


Couples Therapy

Your marriage can be saved after an affair. We’ve helped other couples and can help you too.


Quest for Love
Coaching & Workshops

We will teach you how to make the right choices in your quest for love.


Anita & Team

Hi, I’m Anita Chlipala.

Anita Chlipala dating and relationship coach
People often ask me how I could listen to problems all day. My response: I have a comfortable chair…just kidding. There’s nothing more rewarding than to hear my clients’ stories and to help them achieve their deepest desires and goals.

I founded Relationship Reality 312 to focus exclusively on romantic relationships – from getting one to maintaining one successfully. I use cutting-edge research in my work to bring you the latest information and tools to help you achieve a happy and healthy relationship. Whatever problems or issues you want addressed, I don’t just listen – I’ll teach you the skills you need so that you no longer need to see me anymore (or a twice-yearly check-in will suffice!).

I provide coaching and therapy not only in my Chicago-based office, but nationally and internationally as well. Contact me to make love a priority today!

* Areas of Specialty:

Helping singles navigate dating and find love
Infidelity – emotional and physical affairs
Making decision to stay or leave your relationship
High conflict couples

My approach works. Let me prove it. Call me at 312.399.1635.

Credentials & Qualifications

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship
Level 2 Certification in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Trained in Discernment Counseling
Certified in PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program)
Blogger for Verily Magazine
Former blogger for The Million Dollar Matchmaker, Patti Stanger:
M.A. in Marital and Family Therapy from the University of San Diego
M.Ed. in Secondary Education from Arizona State University
B.A. in English and Religion from the University of Iowa
Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)
Clinical Fellow of the Illinois Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (IAMFT)
President of IAMFT (2017-present)
Member of the Board of Directors for IAMFT (2010-present)
Board Liaison to the IAMFT Networking & Fundraising Committee


Hi, I’m Jenna Fahey.

Jenna Chicago dating and relationship coach
What do I love about doing therapy? The answer is simple: People. Human beings are both fascinating and truly resilient. Every person has their own unique story to tell and I love to hear each one of them. I believe that we are born with the natural desire to seek relationship with others, but this doesn’t mean it comes easily (The last 10 years of my own marriage has taught me that!). I find great joy in helping my clients navigate their current phase of life and write a new and exciting chapter of their story.

My love for therapy started during my very first semester of my undergraduate degree. While sitting in a marriage and family therapy course I decided then and there it was what I wanted to do. I then went on to get a Master’s in Counseling Psychology as well as a Master’s in Marital and Family Therapy.

I was fascinated by much of the new research related to the science behind our relationships. The research shows that our success (or failure) in relationships has a strong connection to both our physiology and psychology. As a result of these findings, my practice is grounded in using research-based methods with my clients. Therapy works, and I want my clients to receive all that they can when they work with me. That first semester of undergraduate school I wanted to be a part of the healing process in people’s relationships. Now, I am able to do just that! Working with my clients has been a dream come true for me, and there is no greater joy than seeing them succeed.

*Areas of Specialty

Substance abuse addiction
Sex/porn addiction
Pre-marital preparation
Trauma recovery/PTSD

Call me at 312.350.2462.

Credentials & Qualifications

Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
M.A. in Counseling Psychology
M.A. in Marital and Family Therapy
Pre-Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Certificate in Domestic Violence (40-hour program)


Hi, I’m Karen Washington.


I want to make the world a better place one sex life at a time.

I once had a therapist tell me figure out what you’re good at, and how to get paid for it. When I was 13, I read Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus. As I got older, I realized I speak Martian pretty well. From there, I also learned that I am utterly fascinated by people, their own self esteem, how they feel about each other, how they do (and don’t) communicate. Most importantly, I learned that I am utterly fascinated and love to talk about sex. So now I do what I love, and it never feels like work.

I studied Sociology in undergrad, which rounded out my study of the individual and all it is impacted by from its environment. From there, I pursued my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy at the Adler School. The systemic foundation reflected my belief that, while sex is not necessarily the primary problem (although it can be), typically it is what suffers from all of life’s problems. I am committed to helping individuals and couples work through life’s obstacles in order to return to a fulfilling intimate life – whether or not problems exist – by teaching better communication and coping skills. I further incorporate psychoeducation on self esteem and sex education to enhance my clients’ understandings and enable them to continue to thrive. I also write advice and editorial pieces on sex/sex related topics for

I believe my clients are experts on themselves; sometimes they just get stuck and need someone else to help them problem solve. That’s why I do what I do – to help you get unstuck by collaborating on tools specifically designed for each of your unique problems, issues, and circumstances.

*Areas of Specialty

Desire discrepancy
Sexual dysfunction/addiction
Intimacy building

Call me at 312.971.6846.

Credentials & Qualifications

Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy from the Adler School of Professional Psychology
B.A. in Sociology from DePaul University (Chicago)
Clinical Fellow in the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
Clinical Fellow in the Illinois Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
Chairperson in the Missouri Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
Freelance writer for


Hi, I’m Amanda Hofbauer.

2015_11_11 Amanda Hofbauer1124 Retouched

I believe relationships are among the most important things we do in this life, so I have dedicated my career to helping people do them better.

I view the importance of connection – that our mind, body and spirit are connected within us, and that we are also connected to others in significant ways – as foundational to my work. I value helping clients restore those connections internally and within relationships. This includes using body-mind approaches, incorporating a client’s spirituality into therapy if they prefer to do so, and helping couples work as a team to strengthen their bond.

In my therapy I strive to make space for the many dimensions of culture that inform people’s lives (race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc.). I also work with those who have experienced past abuse/trauma, and am committed to joining clients on a path toward healing.

I received an undergraduate foundation in Communication, with concentrations in Sociology, Cultural Competence, and Conflict Transformation. I then decided I wanted to become a therapist, and completed a Master’s degree in Couple and Family Therapy from Adler University. I am passionate about working with clients to build healthier, happier relationships – contact me and we can get started!

*Areas of specialty:

Trauma (past abuse, dangerous childhoods, sexual assault, traumatic events)
Grief & loss
Preparing for or adjusting to a new marriage/committed relationship

Call me at 312.857.6270.

Credentials & Qualifications

Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
M.A. in Couple and Family Therapy, Adler University
B.A. in Communication, North Park University
Pre-Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy


Hi, I’m Alycia Lovato.

Alycia Lovato

“Why?” My favorite word; even from a young age. The question that always fueled my curiosity and desire to explore a deeper understanding of people and their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

It was this same curiosity that drove me to pursue my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Colorado and then later my Master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Regis University. I am currently in my second year of a Doctorate of Philosophy program at Adler University where my focus has been on individual and couples therapy with an emphasis in Adlerian Studies.

The Adlerian approach focuses on the holism of the individual. I believe that to truly understand someone and their problems, we must do so within their social context. Like my chosen theoretical orientation, I believe that we all have one basic desire and goal: to belong and feel significant. I believe that when a client seeks therapy it is imperative to develop an understanding of the individual and their social context in order for personal growth to take place. When working with clients, I find myself advocating, guiding goal setting, educating, and allowing my clients to be the expert in their own healing.

I continue to allow my curiosity and love for people to drive my sessions. It is incredibly humbling to witness my clients healing and change.

*Areas of specialty:

Sexual problematic behaviors
Sexual addictions
Sexual trauma

Contact me at 312-809-6822.

Credentials & Qualifications

Applicant for Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Regis University
B.A. in Psychology, University of Colorado
Pre-Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Therapeutic Crisis Intervention Certified

Blog Articles

Classy Ways to End a Bad Date Going Nowhere Blog Recently By   Anita Chlipala